Well intended friend: “When you come out on the other side of this, you are going to one strong, independent force to be reckoned with.”
Me: “I thought I already did that when I broke up with a bf of three years and lost my job a week later in 2012, and then moved into a toxic roommate sitution and into a bad job the same quarter, or with not dying in 2013, or getting strong enough to go back to work in 2014, or going back to university in 2015, or having my heart broken and then moving across the country in 2016, or getting through a year of harassment in 2017 and somehow managing to keep my job. I’m over it. I’m tired of shit piling. Not having time to repair, will degrade any bridge over time.”
I fucking hate that expression, or mentality. I get people are usually well intended but it’s the worst thing they can say, and this was a super high level overview, and I could have started at 2005 instead of 2012. I could have gone further back than that. Ffs.